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Sixteen days to go: honoring hometown heroes

 

There are a few people I will really miss in South Bend. Steve is one. He’s Dale’s son, up at Dale’s Auto, on 933 north. Dale’s not running things anymore, but we all remember him well. I made Steve a pillow today, to say “good-bye.” It’s not the first time I’ve felt this special kinship with him or given him a gift: I wrote the poem below two years ago in a strangely poignant moment when I had just returned from a trip abroad and I suddenly realized that my time was ticking down, here in South Bend and… well, in general. What is it about mechanics that, when they are nice to you, honest and reasonably priced, you just love them so much?!

It was a hot summer’s day. I was waiting for a while at Dale’s Auto for my car to be fixed.* Honey Girl was with me. Having a big friendly dog makes it easy to meet people. Before I knew it I was deep in conversation, like with an old friend, with Harold–a guy I had just met! (I understand that he can be found on most days up at Dale’s, now that he’s retired from the GM plant.) The pillow you see above is number 1, “A Souvenir for Steve,” in the brand-new “Hometown Heroes” line of Honey Girl Books and Gifts. They have real jeans pockets for people who know what work is.

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Dale’s Auto

The low thrumming of a window AC

Out here at Dale’s

Takes me back.

Aluminum siding hot to the hand

Muddy little footprints

Bicker, splash, play

Little boys on their way

I didn’t know then, but we were

All so young and lovely.

 

Harold was afraid of girls

He told me with a sidelong smile

Probably took a lotta nerve

To come and tell me

About his dog and its $600 end,

And Marmalade a ginger cat, a “friendly” cat,

Feline leukemia.

 

Rheumy eyes but good strong hands

Me ‘n the wife, she gets the couch

I got my chair.

65 years and a month

That was a pal from GM, dead, so…

Assembly line, ya know,

Gotta know how to handle it.

What’s for dinner tonight?

Where’ll we go fishin’ come spring?

It’s not so bad

If you know how to handle it.

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The second hometown hero I’m honoring this week is Harvey down at the ReStore on South Main Street.  I volunteered there some hours this spring. I thank Harvey for giving me work to do. For seeing that I really meant it.  “A working person’s got to work,” he said.**

To receive a job to do gives you dignity and purpose–it’s so simple, yet so deep.

“In honor of Harvey”

Hometown Hero no 2. In honor of Harvey.jpg

 

*a 2007 Chevy Aveo, if you want to know. Just sold it for $450!

**Little did he know that he was echoing a similar thought as the Renaissance French philosopher Michel de Montaigne, who said: “Nous sommes nés pour agir … Agissons donc et autant que nous le pouvons” or “We are born to be active … let’s thus be active, as much as we can.” Michel de Montaigne, Essais (1580).

 

 

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Letting go: on moving, death and the untidy garden

One of the poignant things about moving is letting go of things we once held dear. I’ve been abandoning books right and left (to the bins managed by Better World Books, but still…). Rich has abandoned his garden, once a crowning achievement which fed our family for weeks in the summer. Gazing out on the garden this morning while meditating, I savored its lovely untidiness, which brought up the connection to one of my favorite quotes of all time, by the French Renaissance philosopher Michel de Montaigne.

Thought of the day: Letting go is healthy and delightful (even if it feels wrenching at times).

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Portrait_of_Michel_de_Montaigne,_circa_unknown

“I want death to find me in the garden planting cabbages, but not afraid of her, and even less of my imperfect garden.”

“Je veux que la mort me trouve plantant mes choux, mais nonchalant d’elle, et encore plus de mon jardin imparfait.”

Michel de Montaigne, Essais, 1580

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Imperfection and letting go are key concepts in Zen philosophy as they are in T’ai chi. As Bob Klein writes, “Many people are drawn to T’ai-chi-Ch’uan because it enables them to let go of their tensions permanently. Without tension, anxiety and worry, life is a lot more enjoyable. … to release this tension, you must go through the nervous system, for it is a nerve, constantly sending its signal to a muscle, which causes that muscle to tense. You are making yourself tense. Tension, therefore, is not released by doing something extra, but by letting go of something you are already doing.”  (Movements of Magic, 16)

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Did Montaigne know of Zen philosophy?! Or perhaps the Stoics before him? sure seems like there is a connection between East and West deep down …

At any rate, Bon dimanche!